On Being Alone

“See, that’s the behavior of someone who is afraid of being alone. Which, quite frankly, I just don’t understand. I think I’m pretty great and I love spending time with myself. If you don’t agree, you obviously don’t enjoy the finer things in life and we don’t have much in common.” – My Dad

Sometimes “capable of being alone” seems like the secret to life.

Today in Dear Prudence

Q. Housekeeper: This is a problem I am sure a lot of people would love to have. My boyfriend and I are in our late 20s and we both have good salaries. We talked about moving in together and we are fairly compatible. But here is the thing: He has a housekeeper. (That sound you hear is all my girlfriends rolling their eyes.) I do not think we need a housekeeper. Two people keeping a two bedroom apartment clean should be manageable. He thinks that if he hates to clean and can afford to pay somebody else he should. While I can’t see anything outright wrong with that, part of me feels like he is indulgent and immature. I don’t like to do a lot of things, but I do them anyway. He told me that if we let the housekeeper go then I will be totally responsible for all the cleaning. I think that is also unreasonable. Why can’t he just pick up after himself? What if we can’t afford a housekeeper in the future? Will he have any idea how to be self-reliant? Is it so wrong that I think we should be responsible for keeping such a small space clean?

A: Please dump this guy so he can find someone who will appreciate that a man who wants to pay someone a fair wage to keep his apartment clean is a keeper.

I’ll take him.



New album due out in April! I’m so excited about this I don’t know whether to shit or go blind.

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A Playlist

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1. The Roots: Kool On

The thing I love about The Roots is that I love their albums more with each listen. It’s not that it’s not love at first listen, just that with each listen the subtleties and nuances become more apparent. Anyway, this track has been in heavy rotation due primarily to Greg Porn’s wordplay in the first verse. Continue reading