On 2012


I very vividly remember the most depressing thing someone told me as an adolescent. I was 13, and a woman at the church my family and I attended at the time told me, “You know, these are the best years of your life.” Let me assure you; 13 was not a great year for me. I was in 8th grade and in the midst of the requisite middle school drama which was compounded, by the 3rd year of a physically awkward phase that lasted to my own estimation, until sometime after college. But that’s not the point. The point is that the idea of a 70 year old woman telling a 13 year old, “yeah kid, enjoy this because it’s as good as it gets, so you know, enjoy it.” is depressing as hell.

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Interview like A BAWSE!


Today BAWSE (as he shall always be referred) teaches us about interviews. In an interview it’s important to portray confidence, further, if you want to be the bawse, you should do what the bawse does. Here’s the Rickey Rozay guaranteed hired interview script. Trust me.

Q: “Tell me about yourself”
A: “Real niggas do real things for real reasons”

Q: “Okay. Why did you leave your last job?”
A: “Real niggas do real things for real reasons”

Q: “Umm… Tell me about your duties at ____”
A: “Real niggas do real things for real reasons”

Q: “Why do you think you’re a good fit for this position?”
A: “Yeah, I’mma work here. I believe I can do it, too. Look at this blunt. This blunt cost five hundred dollars. Five hundred dollars, for a blunt. And you’re gonna tell me me I can’t have this job?”

[Village Voice Interviews El-P & Killer Mike]

Colonialism 2.0

It looks like March 2012 is the month of the Great White Hope. It seems as though all month, I’ve been having conversations about the difficulties I’m having with approaches of some organizations and people to development in “third-world” countries and neighborhoods. To me, these approaches feel like the beginning of Things Fall Apart. It’s like: “Hey guys! Remember that time we colonized brown people? That was awesome! Let’s do that again! Except this time lets use N.G.Os!”

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From My Cold Dead Uterus: A Girl & Her IUD, A Love Story

That, dear reader will be the title of my inevitable Lifetime movie. Please for the love of all that is holy, don’t watch it in a snuggie or forever lazy.

Anyway, let’s talk about IUD’s. Yay!!

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On Being Alone

“See, that’s the behavior of someone who is afraid of being alone. Which, quite frankly, I just don’t understand. I think I’m pretty great and I love spending time with myself. If you don’t agree, you obviously don’t enjoy the finer things in life and we don’t have much in common.” – My Dad

Sometimes “capable of being alone” seems like the secret to life.

Today in Dear Prudence

Q. Housekeeper: This is a problem I am sure a lot of people would love to have. My boyfriend and I are in our late 20s and we both have good salaries. We talked about moving in together and we are fairly compatible. But here is the thing: He has a housekeeper. (That sound you hear is all my girlfriends rolling their eyes.) I do not think we need a housekeeper. Two people keeping a two bedroom apartment clean should be manageable. He thinks that if he hates to clean and can afford to pay somebody else he should. While I can’t see anything outright wrong with that, part of me feels like he is indulgent and immature. I don’t like to do a lot of things, but I do them anyway. He told me that if we let the housekeeper go then I will be totally responsible for all the cleaning. I think that is also unreasonable. Why can’t he just pick up after himself? What if we can’t afford a housekeeper in the future? Will he have any idea how to be self-reliant? Is it so wrong that I think we should be responsible for keeping such a small space clean?

A: Please dump this guy so he can find someone who will appreciate that a man who wants to pay someone a fair wage to keep his apartment clean is a keeper.

I’ll take him.



New album due out in April! I’m so excited about this I don’t know whether to shit or go blind.

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A Playlist

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1. The Roots: Kool On

The thing I love about The Roots is that I love their albums more with each listen. It’s not that it’s not love at first listen, just that with each listen the subtleties and nuances become more apparent. Anyway, this track has been in heavy rotation due primarily to Greg Porn’s wordplay in the first verse. Continue reading

On Empathy

Earlier this week I got a chance to talk to a close family friend about, among other things, the shortsightedness inherent in viewpoints like Gene Marks’ “If I Was a Poor Black Kid”. I heard about the article and decided to talk about here, 1) because the first rule of the internet is to not feed the troll and 2) because as Cord Jefferson points out, the grammar of the headline is almost as offensive as the column itself.

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